Following the breakup with DL, I was in a strange place. I had the sense to know I did not want to be with DL at all, but I loved the attention he was willing to still give me. The story is one that really paints me in the worst light possible, and for valid reasons, I spent time and energy being a truly horrible person during the time of this story. It’s not easy to actually write about situations in which you know you were wrong and made terrible decisions, and its even worse when you fully knew the decisions you were making and knew the effect they were going to have on others. But, still, I feel that this is something that a great deal of people can relate to on some level. It may be that you have found yourself in the same situation, or have just been intrigued by the idea. I want to clarify, this story is not comprised of unforgivable horrible things. However, the decisions I made did have an impact on others and in some cases caused some feelings to get hurt. For that I truly feel terrible. Now I am starting to think I am building this up too much, so before that go on anymore, let’s jump right in…
So I broke up with DL. As stated in my last post, I know it was the right ting to do. It really was. And that is where everything should have ended. Obviously, it was not where things ended. He wanted to try the friend thing, and I honestly really loved the fact that he didn’t want me out of his life. It’s that feeling you get when someone wants to pay attention to you and actually puts in an effort to do so. We kept texting on a pretty regular basis, and we even talked on the phone from time to time. Eventually, we were back to hanging out from time to time. Not as a normal thing, but we caught a movie or two together. Eventually we got to the point where it was kind of understood that dating would happen. Which, to be honest, I was already putting myself on the market for. However, he was still telling me that he wanted to be with me and was willing to kind of just wait until I was ready to maybe date him again. But still, I told him, no you should move on if you want to.
So when I saw him pop up on Tinder…I wasn’t surprised, or upset, or anything like that. I did mull over the decision of which way to swipe for a bit. I mean really, what is the protocol with an ex that you are friendly with?! Are you supposed to swipe right or left?! I still do not know the answer to this, but I swiped right…and it was a match! Because, of course it was. Up to this point it was no secret to me that if I said said I wanted to get back together with him, he would have showed up at my front door with a bottle of champagne to celebrate. It still didn’t change anything, I was not interested in dating him again, but being friendly, that was fine. We even talked about the fact that we matched up on Tinder and he claims that when my picture popped up he swiped right by accident. For all I know, that could be entirely true, it really could be. Not that I necessarily believe it, but that isn’t the point. We easily moved on from the Tinder incident and continued talking.
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